Last night I, along with many others from my community, went to the local DMV office to vote. While there, a very interesting dynamic was playing out. There was a daughter that had just turned 18 four days earlier and her mother. The mother had already done the mail in ballot and was there in support of her child. Once the child was called up to the electronic booth the mom went with her. The people working at the polls told the mom…
"Together we rise together we fall" is a common saying that most of us have heard. I challenge you to explore if this is actually true? Is it that together we are rising or together we are falling? In my experience this is not true. There are a few people that are falling, that are bringing more terror, and fear, and a sense of lack and not enough-ness and they are driving that energy into our culture. What about the rest of us?
One of the things I was taught to do when growing up was to compare myself to others. Whether it was the typical thing at the dinner table to eat and appreciate food because not everyone had enough or whether it was within the family dynamic in which I was the only girl and so the comparison was between males and females (and appropriate behavior).
We are told stories about who we are. We are told stories about the ways of the world. We are told stories of who we can be when we grow up. We are told the stories through the media of the state of the world and our country. Stories. Constantly told stories.
We do everything because of how we feel. When I say everything, I literally mean E V E R Y T H I N G. Although most of us are actually super disconnected to how we feel. In fact, we have been taught since a very early age that feeling is not a safe thing to do. This comes in the the form of phrases such as
How much of your life have you spent comparing yourself to others? Your family, your looks, your intelligence, etc. However much time that has been, it is too much. We do not need to compete with others so much, we need to start to collaborate. Why? So we all can have a place in this world, live out our purpose in this world, and be filled by the collective energy of community.
May this inspire & encourage you today. This is for you. Maybe you say this to yourself.... from yourself. Perhaps a way to let there be the light ignited within you. Maybe this is a way for you to meditate. Repeat after me.
Have you ever had a moment when suddenly everything felt effortless? Full contentment, enjoyment, child like awe and wonderment? That's what I'm talking about when I say your world stands still - times slows, and all is magical - if only for a moment. Do you remember the last time your world stood still? When I am in moments like this my eyes become glittery (teary) and I feel overwhelmed with purity, joy, happiness, bliss. This feeling comes over my body that is feels airy, satisfyingly still and empty with tiny bubbles of joy floating around. Have you felt this before? Would you like more moments like that in your life?
Some clues to know if this is happening in your system would be thinks like digestive issues, sleep disturbance, difficulty concentrating, being defensive, or feeling anxious. Have you noticed that our bodies and our minds are not actually separate? Perhaps you were concerned about something at work and it effected your sleep? Or maybe when you've struggled with a relationship you also have struggled staying on task and focused throughout your day?
Whether we remember in our minds or not, the body knows. The body holds our traumas and fears. These can show up by someone not feeling their body at all or by feeling it all of the time and further down the road it leads to serious illnesses/diseases.
A big question I have is this - Why are we so stingy with love? There are so many sayings everywhere that talk about great gifts like hope, and laughter, and that the greatest is love - is love the greatest because it is the most difficult for us or because it can truly save and heal us on the deepest most intimate level?
In a relationship we must be able to mutually effect each other [super scary because you might get HURT.... you also could be deeply fulfilled] -
I was recently reading when I came across a quote that struck me. This is what it said, "It is very important to transcend the places that hold us...." I stopped. Just like that, I stopped reading and I began to think to myself, what has been holding me? The answer - many things and the bottom line was myself.
As we begin this week with our clocks set back an hour we might have a shift happening internally. Perhaps we are going to choose to get out of bed when the sun rises and begin a morning workout routine, maybe we will go to sleep earlier each evening because it's been dark longer outside and it's beginning to get cold. Perhaps we want to eat warm soothing foods and stay inside more often? As we are in fall we are in transition. There is always some sort of transitioning happening, today we can talk about our "ode to fall."
Fall has a lot to teach us about transition and impermanence.
This is a bit of a continuation of my last post, The Struggle is Real. What I have for you today is a little poem that I put together about the beauty of the breakdown, of being ripped open and raw, and slowly beginning to put yourself back together ... so you can be a stronger and more inspiring you.
Yes, my friends, you heard me correctly... The Struggle Is Real. The struggle to find ourselves, to be ourselves, to keep our hearts open to the world and our souls filled with passion. Do you sometimes forget that we all have internal struggles and battles? Sometimes our social media feed looks a lot everyone's life is perfect and blissful. This is not the truth. Of course we all have real life struggles, today let's talk about how the struggle is real.... and how you handle it.
Have you ever been told to keep a record of you thoughts or feelings? That it would help you to journal? Did you nod because that's something you've heard before but your response is empty in the fact that you do not actually plan to journal? Are you unsure of how to write to yourself? Does it feel uncomfortable?
What I recently learned was the profound power of freely writing in a journal.
Sometimes we lose our way. We trip and fall down and need a second to breath and gather ourselves before we dust off and get back up and continue. Maybe we get stuck in a little rut every now and again. How do we make our way out of it? What leads us to getting back up and continuing on our journey? How do some people do this quicker than others? There is a tool to use when this happens, and at all other times in your life. This tool will change your life. What is it?
How can you go from being overwhelmed or underwhelmed to feeling alive and free and creating a life you desire? The first step is to move towards a state of happiness within ourselves. Once we do this, we are able to relax a little bit, settle in to who we are internally, and begin to hear that inner voice and allow it to guide us.
So, I've create a list of 5 steps to help you! These techniques will help you begin to feel your power and strength and step into a state of more happiness - to live more out of love than fear, and to start to listen to that inner voice that wants to lead you towards healing and triumph and love. <3
All throughout my life I had been considered a highly competitive person, and for this I was exalted and celebrated. Being a competitive person was seemingly referred to as though I was part of a club that was a notch about the rest - I "got" things other people didn't, I was smart and talented and driven, and I was "good enough" to be considered in competition for a top spot in whatever it was I was doing. Because there was so much positive reinforcement and praise for being a "competitive person" I became really attached to it and let competitiveness become something that defined me. Have you ever felt like this or know someone else who does?
Ever felt like this before? When you're not happy you radiate such a mood/aura that you do your best to not allow others to feel happy. Or perhaps you've been around others that lived in this way and it affected you? Although we tend to not want to believe or see the worst in ourselves, for most of us this is has been the case for us either in the past or presently. If we are not happy then we do our best to make sure others are also not happy. When this happens so many things fall to the wayside...our relationships, our careers, the animals, the environment, basically the planet as a whole. Sound like I am drawing too big of conclusions?
Taking trips and traveling is a wonderful thing that I encourage everyone to do. The distance of travel, the destination of choice, the length of the trip and amount of trips taken in a lifetime can vary of course but the important thing is that we take trips throughout our life. Why, you ask?
Today some of my friends from yoga school started a conversation in the comments section of a friends post on facebook. Her post was about how she feels like she is getting her butt kicked and how she is working on balance & staying connected and that by keeping a good attitude through adversity will help and how important it is to maintain her yoga/meditation practice. Her journey was that she did the 6 week course in Rishikesh, India for her yoga teacher training certification, then went to a vipassa meditation in nepal, and then studyed aurveda in a different part of India. The conversation we [friends from the yoga teacher training, YTT, program] started on her post was about the struggle of coming back to the western world after having spent time in India working on ourselves, our perspective, and how living in the laws of nature flourishes everything. The question has been then, whey are we struggling being back in our daily lives?
I am so appreciate to live where I do - in the foothills of the Rocky Mountains in a town called Evergreen, Colorado. For the first time in my life I choose where I wanted to live because I wanted to live there not because I wanted a job that was there. After doing my fair share of moving after high school (I think 11 total moves and 7 moves between states/countries), I decided that it was time for me to live in a place that I would love and thrive in, and no matter what I was "doing" this was where I wanted to be. After two years of living here, I'm still in love with Evergreen. The visitors we had today are one of the things I love about it so much here.
As you know, I was a gymnast for basically all my life. I was competitively involved in the sport from age 5-28 and currently I still teach classes here and there, but at a more recreational level. As a gymnast I had AMAZING control of my body and was in FANTASTIC shape. My balance and coordination were impeccable and I was super quick and powerful not to mention that I was really strong and could maneuver my body well. While I was no longer a gymnast and by no means in gymnastics shape, I still have some heightened body awareness. So you would think I would be great at skiing, right? Wrong.
Yesterday seemed to be a day for noticing. What do I mean by that? I mean that there were ways and things I wasn't feeling great so it was time to take a step back and figure out what exactly was going on so I knew how to move forward. I've found this to be much for productive then giving in to feeling bad, acting irrationally out of my emotions, regretting it later, and then repeating the whole cycle again. I'm working on being in my cortex part of my brain rather than my limbic brain more regularly.
Okay so I know I live in Colorado and I know that it's December, but this morning I woke up and looked outside and gasped! Snow! The entire sky was white! Where were the reds and pinks I was used to seeing as the sun was rising?! Oh my gosh winter seemed to be here in a flash and along with that came the cold, cloudy skies filled with white flurries. I was feeling a bit dramatic this morning as I'm sure you can tell. What did I do next?
The interesting thing really is that I used a neti pot for a straight 6 weeks - when I was in India doing my yoga teacher training certification program. Neti was one of the things I feared going into the program. I mean, really? You want me to stick something in my nose and have fluid run out the other side? Disgusting! And why? Because it helps cleanse me out? I thought my body was made to do that on it's own and that I didn't need to stick a spout of salty saline water to assist it. Was I ever WRONG.